Comments for Swampwater Debutante http://swampwaterdebutante.com hooper, knitter, geek, neighborhood eccentric and potty-mouthed wonder Tue, 07 Sep 2010 13:41:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 Comment on this is my dance space by Lara http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1403&cpage=1#comment-3391 Lara Tue, 07 Sep 2010 13:41:52 +0000 http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1403#comment-3391 Mmmm... Lissa, making me yearn for a space of my own that's not the yard of wherever I'm staying! Mmmm… Lissa, making me yearn for a space of my own that’s not the yard of wherever I’m staying!

]]> Comment on this is my dance space by Hooping.org | Blog | Create Your Own Hooping Space http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1403&cpage=1#comment-3390 Hooping.org | Blog | Create Your Own Hooping Space Tue, 07 Sep 2010 08:31:56 +0000 http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1403#comment-3390 [...] Lissa Angeline writes, "When I first moved in, it was recommended that I place my sofa parallel to the far wall of my living room, effectively partitioning the space and creating a distinct ‘living room’ area. It looked nice, but it reduced my living room to being a place where I sat and watched TV or knit, because there wasn’t really room to do anything else. Like hoop." … And when a carnival music festival on the radio inspired her to spin it out she began to tear it up – "Untill I ran into the sofa. And the wall. And a cat or two. And my computer desk. Aggravated, I dropped my hoop and studied the living room for a second. And then I had had it. Before you could say “No! It creates a room division where there wasn’t one!” I had the sofa against the wall, the end table by my computer desk, and I was throwing down in the middle of my suddenly enormous dance space, grooving and sweating and loving every minute of it. Apparently I need my own dance space if I want to live." She lives in Hurst, Texas. Full post: Swampwater Debutante [...] [...] Lissa Angeline writes, “When I first moved in, it was recommended that I place my sofa parallel to the far wall of my living room, effectively partitioning the space and creating a distinct ‘living room’ area. It looked nice, but it reduced my living room to being a place where I sat and watched TV or knit, because there wasn’t really room to do anything else. Like hoop.” … And when a carnival music festival on the radio inspired her to spin it out she began to tear it up – “Untill I ran into the sofa. And the wall. And a cat or two. And my computer desk. Aggravated, I dropped my hoop and studied the living room for a second. And then I had had it. Before you could say “No! It creates a room division where there wasn’t one!” I had the sofa against the wall, the end table by my computer desk, and I was throwing down in the middle of my suddenly enormous dance space, grooving and sweating and loving every minute of it. Apparently I need my own dance space if I want to live.” She lives in Hurst, Texas. Full post: Swampwater Debutante [...]

]]> Comment on this is my dance space by Kate http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1403&cpage=1#comment-3389 Kate Tue, 07 Sep 2010 01:28:01 +0000 http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1403#comment-3389 Seriously, one day you are going to have to get a place with a studio type space. For that matter, so will I. Seriously, one day you are going to have to get a place with a studio type space. For that matter, so will I.

]]> Comment on this is my dance space by Raenell http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1403&cpage=1#comment-3388 Raenell Mon, 06 Sep 2010 02:32:26 +0000 http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1403#comment-3388 YAY for dance space. Never mind anyone else's suggestions, your space should make YOU happy. Hoopin' makes you happy, so you must have space in your home to do it! YAY for dance space. Never mind anyone else’s suggestions, your space should make YOU happy. Hoopin’ makes you happy, so you must have space in your home to do it!

]]> Comment on this is my dance space by Kristen http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1403&cpage=1#comment-3387 Kristen Mon, 06 Sep 2010 02:24:59 +0000 http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1403#comment-3387 great space! Mine is in my florida room (sun room I guess you would call it) and it's still a bit little. I can hoop though. great space!

Mine is in my florida room (sun room I guess you would call it) and it’s still a bit little. I can hoop though.

]]> Comment on that ticking clock by Leah http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1402&cpage=1#comment-3385 Leah Mon, 30 Aug 2010 18:31:15 +0000 http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1402#comment-3385 Kids are like face tattoos, you want to be REALLY sure you want it, even then you might not be asking yourself why you got it 10 or 16 years down the line. Embrace your freedom. Kids are like face tattoos, you want to be REALLY sure you want it, even then you might not be asking yourself why you got it 10 or 16 years down the line. Embrace your freedom.

]]> Comment on that ticking clock by GTB http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1402&cpage=1#comment-3384 GTB Sun, 29 Aug 2010 20:31:04 +0000 http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1402#comment-3384 Do you want kids? No. You might think you do, but you don't. Not if you're sane, and I'm pretty sure you are. There is no reason you shouldn't be perfectly happy in whatever circumstances you find yourself. Society may try to push the family and picket fence and dog and whatever other bullshit, but surprise, that hasn't been the norm since the early 1950s. Do what I do: Whatever you want. Whenever you want. For however long you want. Everything you've said there (with the exception of the boyfriend) I have also thought about, and I find that my quality of life is so much higher now that I don't have to worry about somebody else. If I want to eat a bunch of horrible shit that gives me gas and makes me have the most fucked up dreams ever, than I do. If I want to stay up all night playing video games, i do that too. I don't have to care that somebody else might feel neglected or worry about anyone's feelings but mine. I probably don't have to tell you how liberating that is. I've always "been with" somebody, either in a casual relationship or a serious one, since I was 16 or something. I never really HAD much in the way of alone time, and I find that I enjoy it a lot. People keep trying to set me up with their relatives or friends or whatever, and they're shocked when I'm not interested. I like my life nice and uncomplicated. It's completely and utterly mine now, and I don't want to share it with anyone. Do you want kids? No. You might think you do, but you don’t. Not if you’re sane, and I’m pretty sure you are.

There is no reason you shouldn’t be perfectly happy in whatever circumstances you find yourself. Society may try to push the family and picket fence and dog and whatever other bullshit, but surprise, that hasn’t been the norm since the early 1950s.

Do what I do: Whatever you want. Whenever you want. For however long you want.

Everything you’ve said there (with the exception of the boyfriend) I have also thought about, and I find that my quality of life is so much higher now that I don’t have to worry about somebody else. If I want to eat a bunch of horrible shit that gives me gas and makes me have the most fucked up dreams ever, than I do. If I want to stay up all night playing video games, i do that too. I don’t have to care that somebody else might feel neglected or worry about anyone’s feelings but mine. I probably don’t have to tell you how liberating that is.

I’ve always “been with” somebody, either in a casual relationship or a serious one, since I was 16 or something. I never really HAD much in the way of alone time, and I find that I enjoy it a lot. People keep trying to set me up with their relatives or friends or whatever, and they’re shocked when I’m not interested. I like my life nice and uncomplicated. It’s completely and utterly mine now, and I don’t want to share it with anyone.

]]> Comment on that ticking clock by Miz Blo http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1402&cpage=1#comment-3383 Miz Blo Sun, 29 Aug 2010 10:07:39 +0000 http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1402#comment-3383 I think that you would make a wonderful mom. Just remember that you will have to make sure you shut up the breakable and put up the cats. lol. I think you will find someone soon and you will be able to start a family together. I have faith that you will find "Mr Right" whoever he may be, and have as many children as you would like. Chin up, Chest out, and smile you'll get him. *HUGS* I think that you would make a wonderful mom. Just remember that you will have to make sure you shut up the breakable and put up the cats. lol. I think you will find someone soon and you will be able to start a family together. I have faith that you will find “Mr Right” whoever he may be, and have as many children as you would like. Chin up, Chest out, and smile you’ll get him. *HUGS*

]]> Comment on that ticking clock by Jen da Purse Ho http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1402&cpage=1#comment-3381 Jen da Purse Ho Fri, 27 Aug 2010 10:46:36 +0000 http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1402#comment-3381 we're in the same boat. i want kids. but how bad do I want them? i don't think i want one bad enough to be a single mom. granted, being a single mom might happen anyway, but i want a kid that is half me and half someone i love, you know? my clock is starting to tick as well. if you told me 5 years ago that i would be hearing that tick tick...i would have told you to go to hell. hahahaa. of course at that time I was in a relationship w/ someone i couldn't stand. but now that I'm in a relationship w/ someone i really do love and adore, i find my clock ticking even though his isn't ticking at all right now. he said he wants kids someday...just not right now. and I'm fine w/ waiting for as long as I can possibly wait. I just start to wonder if i'm missing my chances. :) the ticking isn't that loud, apparently. :) my mom breathing down my neck about wanting grandchildren really doesn't help things at all either. :) we’re in the same boat. i want kids. but how bad do I want them? i don’t think i want one bad enough to be a single mom. granted, being a single mom might happen anyway, but i want a kid that is half me and half someone i love, you know?

my clock is starting to tick as well. if you told me 5 years ago that i would be hearing that tick tick…i would have told you to go to hell. hahahaa. of course at that time I was in a relationship w/ someone i couldn’t stand. but now that I’m in a relationship w/ someone i really do love and adore, i find my clock ticking even though his isn’t ticking at all right now. he said he wants kids someday…just not right now. and I’m fine w/ waiting for as long as I can possibly wait. I just start to wonder if i’m missing my chances. :) the ticking isn’t that loud, apparently. :)

my mom breathing down my neck about wanting grandchildren really doesn’t help things at all either. :)

]]> Comment on that ticking clock by Val http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1402&cpage=1#comment-3380 Val Thu, 26 Aug 2010 16:22:06 +0000 http://swampwaterdebutante.com/?p=1402#comment-3380 No one should ever feel a pressure to have kids they aren't sure they want. Society may teach us that the only good woman is a breeding woman, but that's not the truth of it. Anyone who doubts that they want kids shouldn't have them. It's not unlike a tattoo, you know? Lifetime commitment, and it's there for a lifetime, so it's not a choice you want to make on a whim. Most people will tell you, "Oh, it's different when they're yours!" and for most people, that's true. I can't fucking stand other people's children. I love my niece and nephews, but only in small doses, and only because they're uncommonly awesome. Other kids can suck it, because they're little assholes. My kids, however, can do no wrong and are angels. Of course (though, in my defense, they really are great kids. I get an awful lot of compliments from complete strangers on how well behaved they are. And it took a lot of work to get them that way). Basically, don't waste time feeling badly about your indecision on the subject of children. If you find yourself longing for them (and all of the fabulous life-mess that goes with them) then go for it. If not, become a doting auntie and never waste time feeling guilty. Just because you possess a uterus doesn't make you obligated to make life. Let life happen! Both of my children thoroughly derailed the plans I'd made for myself, 10 years apart, and I wouldn't have it any other way. No one should ever feel a pressure to have kids they aren’t sure they want. Society may teach us that the only good woman is a breeding woman, but that’s not the truth of it. Anyone who doubts that they want kids shouldn’t have them. It’s not unlike a tattoo, you know? Lifetime commitment, and it’s there for a lifetime, so it’s not a choice you want to make on a whim. Most people will tell you, “Oh, it’s different when they’re yours!” and for most people, that’s true. I can’t fucking stand other people’s children. I love my niece and nephews, but only in small doses, and only because they’re uncommonly awesome. Other kids can suck it, because they’re little assholes. My kids, however, can do no wrong and are angels. Of course (though, in my defense, they really are great kids. I get an awful lot of compliments from complete strangers on how well behaved they are. And it took a lot of work to get them that way).

Basically, don’t waste time feeling badly about your indecision on the subject of children. If you find yourself longing for them (and all of the fabulous life-mess that goes with them) then go for it. If not, become a doting auntie and never waste time feeling guilty. Just because you possess a uterus doesn’t make you obligated to make life. Let life happen! Both of my children thoroughly derailed the plans I’d made for myself, 10 years apart, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

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